Differences between men and women

Differences between men and women in relationships

Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus has often been quoted.  For centuries men and women have been trying to work each other out, and often getting it horribly wrong.

The thing that also blurs the line is the fact that some men have female minds and some men have male minds.  I am not saying they are gay. It is a way our minds process information.

In fact we are a collection of a mix of both feminine and mescaline traits, and everyone is a unique mix.

Daphna Joel in her video explains this very well

Relationship Differences

On average how men treat relationships is different to how women teat relationships. And how we pick out and “Hunt” or “Gather” our ideal partner is quiet unique.  Also what holds us together as a couple is very interesting.

Women do not need to be perfect.

Men are far more visual than women, don’t get me wrong women like to look too. But men are usually attracted to a woman’s proportions first. This will vary man to man, so women you do not have to be perfect!

Some men like skinny, soft, gentle and nurturing, other like full figured, funny, strong women or any combination in between. Some men like blondes, some like brunettes and some love the fiery passion of the red heads. Some like big boobs, some like small and some like it just the way they are.

The funny thing is men of a similar types seem to be attracted to women of a similar type. Although it is not always the case, many soft men like strong women, strong men like soft women, but on average they are looking for their female equal or a woman that can complete the picture and fill the gaps in their strengths and weakness.

With this in mind, if you as a woman are looking for a particular characteristics in a man, try and figure out what that type of man are looking for in general. Perfect to that group could be so different to the perfect you have been trying to become.

Men are also more driven initially to sex than a relationship. And unfortunately men often confuse fantasy with reality. Since we eat with our eyes we often buy the wrong dish off the menu just to find we don’t like its taste.

This also happens for women as well. Yes women are attracted to the physical, because deep down many women love a good strong man who can protect. But, its usually the communication, the sensitive, emotional and romantic part of a woman that chooses the man. A good looking jerk is still a jerk.

Men do not need to be perfect.

At the same time men do not have to be perfect. Again what is perfect. I have seen the ugliest men with the hottest women, so although looks do help, they are not always the defining feature a woman is looking for.

Remember guys fantasy and reality can be polls apart. The hot sexy blonde may be your fantasy, but the woman sitting right in front of you may be the better choice if you are looking for that long term relationship.

Fantasy verse Reality

Both men and women need to be aware of what and why they chase in relation with a partner. Sex appeal and date-ability may be the same thing but usually they are not. If you are just looking for sex be honest with yourself, if you are looking for a relationship stop chasing the sex. Stay real with yourself and what you are currently looking for in both short and long term.

 

A video about how many and women brains are different. A short and long version for your choice of viewing. If you have an hour Mark Gungor has one of the best views on how man and women differ.

Men Women Dating Sex and break ups

Men with Woman

• Personality compatibility can be an issue for long term success
• Sexual compatibility easier. Tab P goes into Slot V plus more fun.
• Lot of game play to connect, usually driven by the woman, but men often deceive themselves as well.
• Once bonded women hold the relationship together.
• During break up women initially can’t let go and holds on
• Later in the break up the man comes back to reconnect.
• Result is for bad relationships to extend far beyond where they should.
• Designed to hold partners together
• Result usually long term relationships with messy endings if they don’t work
• Men’s drive for sex coupled with the woman’s need to connect creates either very painful and bumpy relationships but once working well creates true harmony inside the relationship.

Men with Men

• Both driven for sex
• Once have sex feel connected
• Break up go out and chase sex
• Quick to connect with new partner
• If no new partner only then feel the loss of old partner and chase to get back together
• Sexual compatibility can be the biggest issue
  • Tops
  • Bottoms
  • Versatile
  • Active
  • Passive
• Personality compatibility easier as usually less game play
• Result serial monogamy or multi-partners
• Often revisiting past relationships
• Some men can get clingy which leads to stalking and awkward breakups, but usually leads to simple break ups and moving on.
• Gay men often feel lonely and hollow as the drive for sex does not help secure long term relationships.
• The drive for sex often also leads to open relationships especially if the sexual compatibility is not there.

Women with Women

• Both need to feel connected to have sex.
• Tend to feel the need to be appreciated and the other to be worthy.
• Slow to connect and start relationship
• Once connected both are driven to keep the relationship.
• During break up both hold on tight.
• At end both tend to walk away and stay friends.
• Result – long term relationships usually with long term friends.
• Women tend to play the same relationship games at the start of their bonding, but once honesty and openness enters the bonding is very strong.
• Lesbians usually create very long term pair bonding than their gay male counterparts.

 

Regardless of where you sit, being open and honest with yourself and then with your potential partner is the best place to start.

 

I hope you found this information interesting.  Girls if you want a mans point of view, or guys if you want another guys point of view feel free to ask questions.